The bird you see in the picture flew directly into my balcony window at the place I lived some years ago. Afterwards it kept flying and falling; scrambling around kind of scared, until it was lying on my living room floor, and I could go pick it up. I held it in my palm; I could feel its tiny heart pounding away. It stayed in my hand, and I just sat with it for about half an hour, while it came down. Telling it: it’s ok; don’t worry; you are safe. Then eventually it regained its strength and flew away. Back into the world spreading its wings wide open once again.
This memory came to my mind the other day, when I saw an interview with the author Cheryl Strayed (the title of this post is her quote).
It dawned on me how easy it is to be harsh and put pressure on myself, and I have learned, and know deep in my core, that when I get into push mode it eventually only leads me to feel trapped, cornered and exhausted.
Whereas when I can bring gentleness and ease towards myself, I can access a soft flow that leads to so much more creativity and productivity - and not least to a profound sense of wellbeing and self-connection.
I think it’s important to see that gentle doesn’t mean a lack of commitment, or to slack, or not honor my own intentions.
Gentle entails to be compassionate with myself. If I fall, mess up or make a mistake, can I then forgive instead of punish myself? Do I make time to hear my own deeper needs and nourish myself, so that I can open myself bravely to the world like the tiny little bird did?
I know it’s not easy since most of us are conditioned to be hard, to push, to work towards our goals, to prioritize the external over the internal.
However I’d like to invite you to explore today; how can you bring a sense of gentleness towards yourself?
I’d love to hear how it goes in the comments below.